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I had originally posted “Bed-Wetting: Should Older Children, Adolescents, and Teenagers Be Required to Wear Diapers?” on the Health Central Network website. One of the readers felt that older children should not be required to wear diapers for bed-wetting and this article is a reply to these comments. I realize what I’ve said is very controversial and goes against the grain of most people’s thinking(both professional and non-professional) on this subject. The point of my original sharepost was to get people to see this issue in a whole new light.
I can certainly see Guest’s point of view however he said several things in his reply that just proven my point. One of them was “Kids do have difficulty “seeing two feet beyond their noses” to understand the consequences of their decisions. They also tend to have a somewhat distorted view of the priorities” and “Where the parents come in is in the fact that because they ar older, can often have a more realistic view of the “big picture.”
The big picture as I (and I believe most people) see it is to be capable to manage the bed-wetting in a manner that both makes the youngster comfortable and helps them maintain hygiene. If a youngster doesn’t wear protective garments and lays all night in urine soaked sheets or wears a product that leaks how is this helping them with hygiene or making them feel comfortable?
I think requiring a youngster to wear some type of diaper to bed strikes most people as being punitive due primarily to the fact that diapers conjure up an image of being a baby. Due to the negative image of diapers, people associate requiring an older child, adolescent, or teen to wear diapers to bed as something corrupting and therefore punitive. People are very symbol oriented-flags, national anthems, art, medals, and clothing ar just some of the symbols we impart certain meanings and value to. To many individuals a diaper is a symbol too-a symbol of being a baby. But we mustiness remember that the meaning and value we impart to a symbol is non intrinsic-we are the ones to give it meaning and value. There is nothing intrinsically babyish about diapers-they’re just an absorptive material folded and placed betwixt the legs then tied around the waist of an individual to help manage incontinence. It would help a great deal if dictionaries define a diaper in this way instead of being a garment worn by babies. By not acknowledging that incontinent individuals and bed-wetters also need diapers it demonstrates the inexplicit assumptions people have regarding diapers which in turn perpetuates the image of diapers being babyish. If I was responsible for writing the entry for diaper in the dictionary I would define it this way: “An absorbent garment folded and placed between the legs of an individual then fastened around the waist intentional to protect individuals with bed-wetting problems, incontinence, and as a basic garment for infants before they ar potty trained.”
In my opinion it’s all about the parent’s attitude. If the parents are putt the child, adolescent, or teenager in diapers to humiliate or degrade them then it is wrong. If however the parents are using the diapers as a tool to deal with the bed-wetting then this is satisfactory in my opinion.
Another thing Guest mentions is that my comparison ‘tween wearing a cast and wearing a nappy is “comparing apples and oranges.” He said-“A child won’t necessarily get sick or have a detrimental consequence of not wearing protection for bed-wetting as long as hygienics is maintained” But “not wearing protection for bed-wetting” can have a negative effect on hygiene. Frequent exposure to urine can cause skin breakdown, ulceration, and infection.
I was reading that normal urine pH is ‘tween 6.0 and 6.5 whereas the urine pH of incontinent people is between 8.0 and 9.0 which means it’s more alkaline. This in turn can irritate the skin. To quote one article-“Prolonged exposure to urine is known to chemically irritate the skin and impair its function. Although wearing certain types of diapers can also cause skin problems, these problems can be minimized or eliminated by using the appropriate skin care products such as lotions and creams. Without wearing diapers you’re just exposing more areas of the skin to negative effects.
I’ll reiterate the following point-I do believe that parents should be understanding in terms of having the youngster wear diapers. That’s the reason I suggested implementing the reward system to encourage them to try the diapers and plastic pants out. It’s important to use this system for astatine least 6 months-some youngsters mightiness need a year. It’s my contention that the older child, adolescent, or teenager will be motivated to wear them because of the rewards. By using a reward system to encourage them to wear diapers to bed they’ll associate wearing diapers with something pleasant-getting a reward. After a suitable time period they’ll probably be so comfortable waking up in a dry bed they won’t need the rewards anymore and will wear the diapers and plastic pants to bed of their own accord.
One of the most important aspects of dealings with an illness whether mental or physical is the sense of having some level of control over it. Having this feeling of control improves a person’s self-esteem. This is a recurring theme in discussions and debates about using diapers to manage bed-wetting with older children, adolescents, and teenagers. I touch on this issue frequently in my posts and I thought I would touch on it more in the present one.
The prevailing view among most people whether medical professionals or non is that older children, adolescents, and teenagers should be granted autonomy in their decisions about what type of protection to wear to bed. The reasoning behind this is that by forcing them to wear diapers to bed you’re making them feel babyish. Independence is very important as children get older but in this context the main issue is the following: if the child, adolescent, or teen chooses a product that doesn’t offer adequate protection or chooses to wear no protection at all should the parents judgement about what the most appropriate form of protection to wear to bed trump the youngster’s need for independence? I personally feel it should but everybody’s different.
In terms of self-esteem one of the issues I haven’t seen addressed is this: a big part of self-esteem is having a sense of control over one’s circumstances. In order to have this control we moldiness make decisions about the best course of action to follow given our particular circumstances, and since everybody’s circumstances are different people will make different choices. The way we make these decisions is by evaluating all available options and then choose the best one from all the alternatives. In some cases this might not be the most pleasant one but over time we learn to adjust. Adults do this all the time and the power to do this moldiness be instilled in youngsters astatine an early age.
How this ties in with bed-wetting and wearing diapers to manage it is in the following manner: by not wearing the most effective protection (or non wearing any protection at all) they’re in effect demonstrating that they’re non acting in a creditworthy manner which to maine is being childish. I would tell them that to a certain extent it’s more babyish not wearing diapers to bed. I would also tell them that part of being an adult is choosing the best way to manage a trouble non necessarily the most pleasant one. Most adults are also loath to wear diapers but they realize it’s in their own best interest to do so and although it power take them considerable time and effort to make this adjustment, in the end the majority ar capable to get used to wearing the diapers.
The qualities of being responsible and choosing the best course of action given the circumstances ar some of the hallmarks of being an adult. In addition it makes an individual feel in control of the situation thereby improving the individual’s self-esteem.
How is fabrication all night in wet clothes and bedding or wearing a nappy that leaks being in control of the situation? On the contrary, by lying all night in wet clothes it reminds the person that they’re not in control. As mentioned previously people have different levels of incontinence. In addition the incontinence might effect them in different ways-some people sleep on their sides and have problems with side leakage, some people wet more than others at night, etc. Due to these differences people require certain types and brands of diapers differently they wouldn’t manufacture such a wide variety of products. Wearing the most effective type of diapers to bed whether pin-on diapers and plastic pants, tape-on disposables, or other products makes the user feel more in control of the situation and helps the person feel more self-confident. This in turn will improve the bed-wetter’s self-esteem.
I wanted to clarify where I stood on this issue. I was under the impression that some people mightiness think I’m some kind of ogre because of my position on this issue. Nothing could be further from the truth. I look forward to any comments regarding this or any of my other posts. It’s good to have constructive dialogues regarding this issue. Many people have preconceived ideas about this issue and I hope my posts mightiness make some reconsider some of their basic preconceptions on this topic. We as a society have overcome many of our prejudices and have mature where many issues ar concerned. For example there is less stigma surrounding mental illness and other diseases. Hopefully in time there will be less of a stigma surrounding using diapers to manage bed-wetting with older children, adolescents, teenagers, and adults.